Conquering the 3 Universal Fears
SUMMARY
Are you constantly trying to get the approval of other people? Is everything you do geared around getting people to accept you, like you, and tell you you're good enough?
Well, I lived that for many years. If that's you, stick with me because this week, I want to help you get rid of it for good.
Let's unpack the 3 universal fears:
The first fear is the fear of not being enough. The second is the fear of not belonging. And the third fear is the fear of not being loved.
So, you are enough, you do belong, and you are loved.
TRANSCRIPT
Are you constantly trying to get the approval of other people? Is everything you do geared around getting people to accept you, like you, and tell you you're good enough?
Hi, this is Grant Herbert, VUCA Leadership and Sustainable Performance Coach, and today I want to continue our conversation around this thing called your IDENTITY by helping you conquer the 3 universal fears.
Let's unpack these 3 universal fears and then look at how you can shift away from them to be more confident in who you are, be okay with who you are, and get to that position of self-approval.
Before we introduce these 3 fears, I want to make a point: they are universal, so they are not something that just goes on for you. Every human being on the planet goes through these same fears.
The first fear is the fear of not being enough. What this means is that you fear that everything you do is not good enough and that people won't think it's up to par. That creates an environment of working, striving to get things right, perfectionism, and procrastination.
The second is the fear of not belonging. From the moment we are born, we want to belong. This is the root of imposter syndrome.
Then the third fear is the fear of not being loved. Every single person on the planet needs to be loved. When you fear that you will not have that connection and love, you behave in a way that you think will actually get people to love you. Unfortunately, what actually happens is that you actually push people away.
So those are the 3 universal fears. I want you to look for evidence of why you belong, why you are good enough, and why you are loved. When that internal voice makes you feel like you 'don't', remind it that you 'do'.
So, you are enough, you do belong, and you are loved. I'll see you then.
