Harnessing Your Self Talk

SUMMARY

Do you find that the most difficult conversations that you have are the ones that you have with yourself? Have you constantly got that inner critic coming at you?

Well, stick with me because this week, I'm going to help you clean that up.

You need to harness that negative self-talk, shift it into an empowering self-talk, and become your greatest encourager. Just like approval, external validation is great, but it's your voice that you take the most notice of.

TRANSCRIPT

Do you find that the most difficult conversations that you have are the ones that you have with yourself?

Hi, this is Grant Herbert, VUCA Leadership and Sustainable Performance Coach, and today I want to continue this conversation about rebuilding your identity by helping you harness your self-talk.

Over the years of this happening, you've developed an inner dialogue. You've conditioned yourself to think about yourself and act in a certain way. I know personally that I would never speak to anybody as harshly as I speak to myself.

I need to let you understand that, just like me, you have a reason for doing this. Your self-talk is designed to keep you within your safe zone — to put you in a position that keeps you safe from those universal fears and the other challenges that you've convinced yourself will happen in your life.

I call this inner dialogue your 'mini-me'. It's that small version of you that you've created to speak to you and talk some sense into you when you step outside what's comfortable.

Now that you understand that you created your inner critic and internal dialogue, and have taken responsibility for it, you know that it's your responsibility to change it.

The first step is to have a level of self-awareness to know when your self-talk is holding you back. To do that, you need to continue to build up your identity, removing your limiting beliefs.

The next thing to do is acknowledge that inner voice. Just like I did with my grandchild — acknowledge them, and then show them what you want them to do instead.

You and I need to harness that negative self-talk, shift it into an empowering self-talk, and become your greatest encourager. Just like approval, external validation is great, but it's your voice that you take the most notice of.

Acknowledge and be aware of them. Help your mini-me unlearn them and then step into a new empowering dialogue. You'll be able to build up your identity, increase your personal power, and become who you need to be right now. I'll see you then.